Where has he gone?
Where has my sweet little well behaved boy gone. Ever since we brought Lucas home from the hospital Logan has become a different child. He talks back, hits, spits, cries and wants held all the time. Not that all that happens in one day but it makes for a long week. I would like to think that we had a handle on his behavior before Lucas was born but now I just don't know what to do. It has only been 4 weeks but it has been a very stressful 4 weeks. I feel like Logan has forgot how to communicate his feeling. I have sat and cried to my husband because I am unsure what to do. I have been using timeouts but it doesn't seem to be working. When he gets up the behavior is all over again. This week he has started to lash out at the baby. At what point is it no longer just an adjustment stage. I have been reading online, watching suppernanny and I am open to any suggestions........
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we went through the wanting extra attention and wanting to be held all the time.
But we didn't go through the spitting, lashing out, etc.
So I am not sure I will be much help.....
but when Ryan started acting out we tried to use the positive reinforcement/ decision type method.
If he did something bad we would ask him if it was a good decision or a bad decision.
If good we praised him!
If it was bad - we had him explain why he did it. Then we made him offer up suggestions on how to make it a good decision. Then he had to correct his poor behavior.
Also, anytime I caught him watching tv, playing by himself, coloring in the lines, putting on his shoes, picking up his toys, going to bed without a fuss, washing his hands - anything good at all! I would praise him constantly. It seemed like if he was getting a ton of attention in that way - he didn't act out.
Sorry, wish I could be more help - - -
I'll keep you all in our prayers. I don't have tons of ideas, but I do know that you're not alone...I have heard this same kind of scenerio tons of times. Keep us updated...
Miss Libby has kind of gone back and forth, and it really seems to be worse when Abby is getting most the attention. hang in there it has gotten much better. I just try and spend as much time with her as I can during those times - the house work falls behind and dinners aren't as time consuming... but spirits get better when we can play with play dough or color while the baby is sleeping and she gets more attention. It's hard... but hang in there. We tried spanking, time out, talking, ignoring it, staying home, being gone... different things worked at different times...